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Overcoming Natural Hair Adversity

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Always, live in your truth!

If we think back to about 15-20 years, people did indeed wear their natural hair. However, for some reason, it’s a “thing” now. Some even call it a trend. But you look at it, wearing your natural hair in today’s society is a hot topic.

For many, it says a lot about a woman who can stand firm in her skin and rock her natural hair. Because of course, it was the hair she was born with so why wouldn’t she? Well, there are many women, sadly who wouldn’t, for many reasons.

As much as the natural hair community has grown, there are still many souls in the world who don’t agree with that look. So, I am here today to shed some light into the adversities that many face while staying true to their self.

There are just far too many women who fall victim to the way society wants us to be, and I’ll try my best to put an end to that.

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Dealing With Society

Honestly, ladies, the best way to overcome natural hair adversity, is to be confident in the beautiful skin you have!

I can’t tell you how many women I have met who say they would love to rock their natural hair “if only it were curlier, or softer, or like yours.” You must let go of that mindset if you ever want to make progress in the self-love department. Because the truth is, if you don’t like your hair, you will hold on to the negative things other people will say. And trust me, so many people will not love your hair.

The society we live in today, sometimes makes it’s so hard for us to be our true self. With constant comparison at our fingertips from social media, dealing with standards at work and so much more, its hard.

But most importantly, you have to have a strong love for yourself, or you will break each time something comes against what you stand for or believe. Make sure you fall in love with your hair and understand your hair does not define you. Your hair is merely an extension of who you are.

There have been so many different occasions when people have asked me if I’m doing my hair, why am I wearing my hair a certain way, so many other ridiculous questions. However, it doesn’t bother me because I know my hair is the bomb.

I know that I have strong confidence in my natural hair and don’t need people to agree or disagree with my style of choice.

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Dealing With Adversity in The Public Light

Don’t think for a second that us regular folk are the only ones dealing with the adversity of our beautiful tresses; celebs and public figures go through it as well.

Have you heard of the Meteorologist, Corallys Ortiz? She’s a Tennessee Meteorologist who recently made headlines over her natural hair. A viewer called in to voice their unwarranted opinion on Ortiz’s hair. The viewer told her she shouldn’t wear her hair like “that” again and to wear it more “normal.”

Ortiz took to social media to share her experience and mentioned how she felt about the viewer’s opinion. Ortiz is far from bothered. She shed light on how many women of color have issues with wearing their natural hair because society thinks its “not professional” but in recent years, its gotten a lot better.

She also made a note that she’ll be wearing her curly hair on-air, in the future and that this one situation won’t affect her.

But the sad part of it all is that whoever that viewer was, really went out of their way to make a phone call to tell Ortiz how they felt…about her hair!

Hey, it’s the world we live in though and I’m so proud that Ortiz stood her ground!

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Overcoming Adversity in the Work Place

Have you ever had a job interview coming up and been told to “do something with your head?”

Well, I have, and I never understood what the big deal was. However, so many people feel the need to rock a bun or straighten their hair when they have professional interviews to attend. Many people never understood why I was so against this; its because its wrong!

The root of this issue goes back to me mentioning how important it is for you to be confident in your skin. Whenever I had job interviews, I wore my hair curly, just as it grew from my scalp. And you know what, if I didn’t get hired for a job, it was because I wasn’t meant to have it me; not because of my hair.

I have had countless arguments over this issue and always hear other natural haired people say “but why not play the role and then let your natural hair out if you get hired?”

But why should I have to play some role when my hair doesn’t define me? I mean, Indie Ire said it best with one of her popular songs, “I Am Not My Hair.” And that right there is a fact ladies, and don’t ever forget it.

If something in this world is for you, remember that you will always have it and don’t have to fake your way.

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I Came I Saw I Conquered

So, if you’re still wondering how to overcome natural hair adversity, know its quite simple. Just be YOU!

Love yourself, be kind to yourself and always do what you want to do. Respect yourself and of course, still be confident in everything you do; especially when it comes to your hair. Us naturals know and fully understand that it’s not always an easy road on this journey.

Sometimes our hair doesn’t turn out how we want it or sometimes the humidity messes with it, and there are times when folks will ask you silly questions because they don’t know what else to do.

But have no fear. You are not your hair. Your hair is merely an extension of who you are. So, if you find yourself ever doubting your natural hair journey, think of that Tennessee Meteorologist, Corallys Ortiz who faced it in the spotlight.

She came, she saw, she conquered.

About Brit Tea

Brit Tea is an American Author. She has written two books so far and isa copy/content writer as well. She believes words can change the world.

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7 thoughts on “Overcoming Natural Hair Adversity

  1. Mecca says:

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    I love this article. So many girls need to have power and own their own hair and look! When I first decided to do my big chop I was not concerned with what people thought of me! I was concerned about my hair health. I cut my hair about 1in. And my boyfriend was devastated at first but he grew to understand I was growing and learning more about myself and being natural. This leads me to think more about natural products and being nautical in my way of living. I’m so thankful I made the jump to go natural and start over my hair is so much healthier now!

  2. Nathalie W. says:

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    “Love yourself, be kind to yourself and always do what you want to do. Respect yourself and of course, still be confident in everything you do; especially when it comes to your hair.”

    What a beautiful way to sum up how to conquer natural hair adversity! I wasn’t confident when I was younger so we need to start now especially with our younger girls to show that it is okay to be YOU!

  3. Shonte Perry says:

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    Great read! Beauty starts within and manifests externally. Self Love is what we need first! I want to go natural but loving myself is a race that I am still running. Ignoring naysayers and just embracing can be hard for some. But, in today’s society, you gotta have tough skin or the internet will chew you up and spit you out!!

  4. Rayvynne Rebelle says:

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    It is so important to teach women and young girls about loving themselves because we are constantly bombarded with images of what they should look like, act, etc.

    I have had natural hair for a long time. I have even gotten pushback from family members.
    You truly have to be able to ignore the outside voices. It’s taken me a long time to truly love and enjoy my hair and I’m still learning.

    Now when little girls or women in general compliment my hair. I say thank you and yours is as well.

    This article is so important to highlight one of the societal issues women of color face. You can be articulate, smart, professional and more and still get railroaded. I say be you!

  5. Melissa Carter says:

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    When I decided to go natural 5yrs ago, it wasn’t a choice I made overnight. Up until that point I was so apprehensive about transitioning. Although I had always loved my natural hair in private, I was still seeking validation from society and how people would react to it. I had to get to a point of full shamelessness and high self-esteem to know that my natural beauty is what it is and that I shouldn’t have to put a facade on to go out into the world. Yes, I love my weaves and wigs, but there are power and versatility that comes with natural hair. Knowing that my hair defies gravity speaks on how powerful it is!! It’s definitely a muscle to build on to get to the point, but once I got there, I never went back and I don’t plan on it either.

    And P.S. just because women wear weaves and wigs doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate their natural beauty. We can do it all!!! And we like to protect our hair because we treasure it!!!

  6. Sherray Lin says:

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    This is awesome. I’ve been natural for 12 years and I’ve heard every comment good and bad. What makes matters worse. Most of the negative comments were from black people. This really bothered me. I loved wearing my natural hair. I’m a Nurse so I never had a problem at work. I think our hair is beautiful and I love my natural hair.

  7. Valerie Page says:

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    I’m ashamed to say there was a day and time when I said natural hair was not for me. I thought natural hair meant your hair was nappy. That is so far from the truth. I was so ignorant of what natural hair actually is. Natural hair for lack of a better word is just really really curly hair…Lol! I transitioned four years ago and will never go back to the creamy crack (perms). It took a while for me to get comfortable with wearing my natural hair outside the house. I felt like everyone was staring at me. Thank God for YouTube videos and tutorials. TheChicNatural was my go-to for natural hairstyles to slay every day!

    At the end of the day, I don’t care what anyone else thinks about my natural hair. These coils are growing out of my scalp! It can’t get more for me than that!

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